``Wanna Meet for Coffee?`` Come on, you can do better!!
With so many people turning to online dating, something to remember, this is basically “a blind date.” You have not met this person before. You may attempt Read More
to get to know this person whether it be talking on the phone, e-mailing or texting, but you are not going to really know if you and this person have any kind of real connection until you meet them. Seeing someone’s body language, looking into their eyes and smelling their scent are all keys to making this determination. A challenge when meeting for the first time is where to meet. Going out for a
meal or meeting for coffee seems to be the “go to” however, this may not be the best choice for most. Sitting across the table with someone you have never met before and the only thing on the menu is conversation, may set the tone for disaster. Not everyone has the gene where they can start and continue interesting conversation for the duration of the date. Most are going to feel uncomfortable, even awkward. When this happens you are not allowing your date to meet the “real” you. The person you are when you are with your friends and family that love you. So where to meet? When considering your options try to think of something that is fun, relaxed, interesting. If you have been paying attention to the information shared while you were talking, texting or e-mailing you should have picked up on a few ideas what this persons interests are. Hopefully you both have some interests in common. Now in some cases it may not be clear who is asking who “out” for the first date. Traditionally it is the man who is asking the woman out. There may be times where there is a mutual agreement to meet. In today’s world it may be at the suggestion that the lady is asking the man to meet. Whatever the circumstance is, can determine who makes the decision where to meet and who will pay for the date. The best option is always going to be a joint effort. Sharing ideas of where to meet can produce the best results. If you both cannot agree on the exact same plan, it is always best to try and compromise. If one or both of you cannot come to an agreement, maybe you are “dodging a bullet” and you should politely move on. You may not want to waste your time on someone who you truly are not compatible with.